An indicator that one has made It in “The Industry” is that they can afford a personal assistant. The personal assistant is responsible for everything from screening phone calls, managing schedules, booking travel and even picking through M&M’s to remove all except the blue ones. Although this could be seen as a demeaning task the job of the personal assistant is to manage and reduce stress in the life of the individual for whom they work. Fonzworth Bentley was one of the first I remember to make the PA position appealing, and one could even say sexy. He was stylish and confident while taking care of Sean, Puffy, P Diddy’s (or whatever the child’s name is this week) every need.
I also remember watching a PA competition on television and the winner was the one that came with what he called the PA emergency kit. His kit included lotion, oil, mints, gum, candy, brushes, combs, breath spray, dental floss and everything anyone could need to meet, greet and survive a long day.
What if we did this in marriage? What if we got to know our spouse so well that we could anticipate and prepare for our spouse’s every want and need? And what if we made it so seamless it came across as normal?
My challenge to you is this: Take the time to become your spouse’s pseudo personal assistant. Get to know all of your spouse’s favorite things and keep them on hand whenever he/she wants them. Figure out his favorite chewing gum, her favorite breath mint, the cologne he loves and the hand cream she can’t live without. I know this seems silly, but it is one of the little things I often stress that can make or break a relationship. It’s another little way of showing your spouse that he/she means the world to you. Finally, it’s an easy way to show your spouse you would go out of your way to make his/her day.
Be devoted to one another in love. honor one another above yourselves (Romans 12:10, NIV).
THIS IS IT and YOU MADE IT!!!! We lost many a couple along the way but you are
the best of the best, the cream of the crop, and the top of the top!!!!
Life is short and tomorrow is not promised so today is the greatest of all because you get to let your spouse know just how special they are to you in writing. After losing my dad without getting the chance to say goodbye, I see first hand how important it is to share your love aloud. I realize many of you have written a love letter in Challenge 1, Take II and/or on the blog, but today your gonna do it again and better than ever. Write every good thing you have ever thought about your spouse. Write about the good times and how much you have enjoyed life together. Share your gratefulness, your love and those things that only your spouse will understand. When you have completed this challenge post a short video together on your page saying:
“My Christian Marriage Matters”
and don’t forget to #ChristianMarriageMatters and #22DaysofLove on your video (and feel free to tag me).
Thank you for participating, and feel free to share with others.
Get dressed up or dressed down. Make this one a date with a purpose. You can add a theme (80’s, Roaring 20’s, Hippie night etc…), be serious, be ultra silly, or just be yourselves. Whatever you do, just have the time of your life with the love of your life.
Also don’t forget to incorporate Date Nights into your regular routine. Whether they happen weekly, bi-weekly or monthly, you need to schedule uninterrupted Quality Time with your Boo.
Today’s topic is “If You Only Knew”.During the day write the things you wish your spouse knew in your journal. Triggers, secrets, dreams, wishes fantasies etc… Those things that hurt you or make you sad and the things that touch your heart or make you happy. Tonight discuss each of your lists together. Share one thing off your list with us in the comments and#ChristianMarriageMatters and #22DaysofLove
For today’s Challenge write a song, poem or rap for your spouse. Share your love in some creative form. After you share it with your spouse, Post a portion to the page and #ChristianMarriageMatters and #22DaysofLove
Dereke and Asia are here to tell you a little about theirs.
Today’s Challenge is to write your Bucket list. Spend the day dreaming and writing everything you would like to do before you kick the bucket. When you come together share all of the hopes wishes and dreams that are on that list.
Share one or two in the comments with the #ChristianMarriageMatters and #22DaysofLove