How many people have heard these words, or even worst how many have said it?
There’s this assumption that since you married her and made her your one and only, that she knows how much you love her. I’ll give you this, she may know you love her, but she needs to hear that you are still in love with her everyday.
Women go through the ups and downs of bad hair days, carrying baby weight, acne and the “I’m not good enough’ battle forced on them by society. When this is coupled with a nonchalant relationship in which the man is too cool to share his true feelings, how could she feel like the queen she is?
Take a moment and think about why you fell in love with your wife. What made her special? What made her different? What made you decide this is the woman you wanted to spend the rest of your life with?
Then take a look at the number one love stories, women’s channels and chick flicks. What makes the women melt? You know it’s that Casanova who comes on the scene and who notices everything from her haircut to a change in nail color. The guy who reminds her of just how very special she is each day. That’s the guy who has mastered the art of Divorce-Proofing his marriage. She becomes so accustomed to hearing sweet nothings (or everything’s) from her man that flirtation and compliments have no effect on her.
Now work at becoming this guy. Sincerely compliment your wife each and every day. Make her feel special, beautiful and desirable. Show her you’re interested in what she’s doing, where she’s going and what she has to say. Hold her, caress her and be there for her. But most importantly tell her you love her until you are blue in the face and show her you love her with all you say and do.
Don’t make Valentine’s Day the only time she hears it either. Develop a habit and say it until she gets annoyed (I assure you she’s acting).
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sin (1Peter 4:8, NIV).